Backstory

So...how do you get to be over 40, with five kids, multiple advanced degrees and a divorce under your belt, well it is a fun story.  You start with marrying the wrong person, someone who takes but doesn't give, that watches you struggle, someone who systemically breaks you down until you believe you don't deserve better and can't do it on your own.  I knew he was wrong from the start and I should have left many, many times.  So many other people saw it too and they tried to help me know I could leave, but I stayed, and I take ownership of that.  As more kids came, money got tighter, and it got scarier.  Honestly, if he hadn't walked out like he did I would probably still be married today and miserable with no sense of hope.  At least now I have hope